Love is not easy. Oh, yes, sometimes love is the easiest thing in the world - catch your breath in your throat, when for the first time to see how they spent endless hours episodes tell each other your stories, the whirlwind of passion. E 'inexorable as the force of gravity.
But stay in love? Well, it's difficult. And what is more difficult to know when your relationship more than just a flash in the pan, if it's the real thing. It 's the moment you stop, "It is notgreat! "It begins to ask:" 'She's the one? "
True love - the kind of relationship where you could happily spend the rest of your life with this person - based on more than just a chemical cocktail and promises breath. The passion may be replaced at short notice for an agreement on. But to make it through sickness and health, provide for better or for worse, is more necessary than the shooting stars and candy hearts. You need real-world compatibility.
Not sure if your relationship with theTask? Discover for yourself the following questions:
1. What are your dreams, ideals and goals in life?
This is a big problem. If you want to spend the life of selfless service, happiness or bumming in Thailand writing emo poetry less as an ascetic life and they will set the woman in the world, as a pampered millionaire Jet ... Well, let's just say you have to go to questions. Of course, not all contradictions are in sightincompatible. But you have to break at least one common denominator, or the different trajectories in the end your relationship apart. Clearly, the time to discover this before exchanging vows, or any promise in the long term.
2. What do you expect from a spouse?
He wants a woman that her business partner and leisure facilities friend or a housewife and stay-at-home mom? fail to have a 9-5 head of household, or someone who is dedicated to their career if I were a preferredto do the right thing in the way? unfulfilled expectations can be the source of friction and can cause a serious rift in an otherwise wonderful relationship. Before you commit to something you should know exactly what the other person wants from a significant other (and future), and if this is a role that you can be happy.
3. What are your non-negotiable demands, desires and limitations?
A person may not be willing to work with someone who can go far in which they liveStalk their favorite band when on tour. another may refuse to cook. A single person can be very conservative, and demand to be so by the spouse, the other no matter what your policy as long as it is why the baseball was also in agreement created the universe. Knowing what the other person needs (or refused) in her life - and if you live with it - is a very important part of building a solid and functional. It is not something youwant to find out on their honeymoon.
4. Who are you and you want to be?
Want to see the Help for your commitment to the poor, while your partner is trying to build an empire Trump, for example financial services? Do you want a globe-hopping celebrity, but your partner prefers life on the farm? Know what your significant other wants to go to heritage and who now want to wind up make-or-break information for each report. I doubt Oscar WildeFlorence Nightingale would have made a couple comfortable.
5. The big three: money, children, religion
Never in the long term relationship to address, without discussion of these three central themes. Nothing is true love in hatred boiling faster than current arguments about how the finances are arranged, if you have children (and if so, how are collected) are themselves and their holidays and noble tradition of the house . If you do not agree at least on the basic principles in these threeworks for both) are important areas (critical or find a compromise that the parties, their relationship is in imminent danger of tearing itself
Of course there are other issues that you must fight - the family, spent the holidays, the relative values of S-life options on urban or rural, whose career takes priority. But if you agree (or at least patch over the differences) on these important issues, we have a good chance for a lasting, lovingValue you can enjoy for life.
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